What's LOVE got to do with it? The Big L?

Simply put the world is held together on every level by attractive forces.

What holds me together? What holds my friendships, family relations, etc together?

I would like to believe it's a healthy form of love.....

Love: something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that meal") to something one would die for (ideals, family). It can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state(regardless, this is a term ONE MUST TRULY DEFINE FOR ONE'S SELF).

However, I am thinking love may be less the basis for my interactions as life becomes more complicated. I find more and more that what I think is love is usually a selfish amalgamation(to mix or merge so as to make a combination) that is a desperate attempt to get what I want and need all at the same time. Such as...have your cake and eat it, too? To develop on my wants, desires, lusts, etc. and fulfill my needs as well.

I say this because I recently made a list of people I interact with and put them in the category of fulfilling my wants versus fulfilling my needs. What I realized is that those people who I concerned with my superficial WANTS were those that represented the most drama, anxiety, and direct routes to increasing stress and lack of success.

Keep in mind, I am always responsible for my choices. It is always the responsibility of the individual in one's own happiness. But sometimes it can be so very important to step away and look at even the closest/dearest friend and see what kind of threat/benefit they are really serving in your happiness. Then decide, did I put them in that position, role, etc?

In my experience.....it was always me, that allowed YOU to get to me...good or bad......

So, what's love got to do with it?